Of Love and Attraction (continued)

This post is a continuation of my previous post with the same title. If you haven't read that one, read it first, coz I'll be using vocabulary terms from that post. Hehe.


Ok, so we talked about my very own Birdie's Law of Attraction. Continuing from that, I'll tell you briefly what relationships are built on which attractions.

Most of the time, friends would start out based on Mental Attraction. If the Mental Attraction is strong enough, Emotional Attraction might come into play, and with both of them present, these are the friends that you usually become "good friends" with or even "best friends".

For having a relationship (partner type relationship), for a GOOD relationship, all 3 should be present. If you have Emotional Attraction and Physical Attraction but have no Mental Attraction whatsoever, this arises the situation whereby the 2 of them will end up quarreling over whether they should use Tomato sauce or Mayonnaise to go with some simple... say... potato wedges.

Though if the 2 lovers are considerate for each other, usually having more of a certain type of attraction could balance out the lack of another to keep everything in check.


Moving onto the 3 types of Love. Whether you realise it or not, the L.o.v.e surrounding us in our everyday lives, can actually be divided into 3 types of Love.


First of all, is Love for "the One"
This is our most commonly seen everyday, where a guy and girl couple are seen holding hands walking down the street, marriages taking place every week, love songs and love stories are all about this kind of Love. At the same time, this is the love that makes you blind, and teaches you stuff like.... although loving someone doesn't mean he is flawless, but it does mean that you'll still love him despite his flaws.

The answer when asked "Why?" for this kind of Love, is usually the most romantic: "Because I Love you". But I guess I need not say anything else about this.
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2ndly, is Love among Friends.
Love for our friends is one of the more neglected type of love. Though we may not know it, but it's actually all around us. We all need friends, whether we realise it or not, of course there are some who seek 'solitude' (seek to be alone), but that's a different story. Love for friends, like I mentioned before, is based around Mental and Emotional Attraction, though Emotional usually only comes AFTER.

"Best friends are like the toughest stains on your clothes. While other dirts and dusts come and go, what remains are the toughest stains that can't be washed off."
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Lastly, is the kind of Love most taken for granted, most unconditional love of all. The "Mother's Love"
Of course, this doesn't only refer to our mom's love. This love includes all family members and anyone related by blood, your siblings, your father, your little brother, or anyone 'family'. This is the love that starts off from nothing, it doesn't have any "pre-requisites" nor "post-requisites". Well, if you want, you could say it's based off Emotional Attraction but Emotional Attraction ONLY. Nothing else.

Up until now, I still don't quite understand this kind of love, but it's so far still the simplest Love I've come to understand.

Just like all the reason a mother needs to save her child, is the reason "because you're my son"; or the reason that a brother would help out his sibling with a saying "because I'm your brother".

So the next time one of your family member expresses their love for you, remember not to take it for granted.
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Hmm... the post turned out longer than I expected, lol. So I guess that's all for now. Till I come up with more ideas on Love.


So long.

Of Love and Attraction

Okay... what now... I changed jobs? First Photograhy... then Time Traveling.... now I'm a Love Guru? Whatever. But I just somehow decided that I'll post something that's unlike me once in a while. It's still "me" duh~ but just from the darker side of my brain which rarely sees the light.

Today, I'll bring you a brief introduction to Love. While some people seem to say they know e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g about it, there are those who are unaware what or why the heck even until they're married.

Well, obviously there's no direct 'definition' to l.o.v.e itself, but I just wanted to try and explain love from My own 'bird's-eye' point of view.


Okay. First, there's Attraction, and attraction can be easily divided into 3 forms:


Birdie's Law of Attraction (sounds kinda physics to me, but... meh...):

1. Mental Attraction
This form of attraction is the basic attraction for most people. Simply put, it's the intersection point of interests, discussion topics, hobbies, likes and dislikes. In other words, attraction occurs when people of the same mentality mix together. It's brought about by having common views, and having someone to share what doing what someone enjoys together with him or her.


2. Emotional Attraction
Emotional attraction is the type of attraction that isn't acquired in a day, or a week... This usually happens over time when time is spent with a certain person, say... going to class together, playing together, watching movies together, and the such. This attraction grows with time... and is something related to 'habit'. As time passes, you're "habitually" attracted to that person you spend time with. This attraction isn't dependent on having Mental Attraction, but of course it's usually a result of Mental Attraction (Uh... duh... would you wanna be sitting beside someone who says everything you do isn't right in class?).

Emotional attraction is the one that makes your hand feel heavy when waving a goodbye to someone at the airport, it's the attraction that makes you call someone to see how they're doing, and also the same attraction that makes people break down and cry when losing a loved one.


3. Physical Attraction
This... in a more crude and direct way of saying this... ... is Lust... .... okay, that's maybe a bit too crude, but Lust is one of the kinds of physical attraction. It's the attraction that makes the guys eye some girl's butt, or the boobies... or whatever they wanna eye on. Of course, let's not make it sound so dirty, cause it doesn't necessarily have to involve butts and boobs. It may be because of the way someone talks, or the way she laughs, or the way he just stands, or just because a certain someone looks cute. This attraction sometimes doesn't just happen overnight, sometimes it takes time for people to realise why they find a certain individual interesting.



After talking about the 3 forms of Attraction, I'll now brief you on the 3 types of Love.


But seeing that it's 2:30 in the morning. I'd better get some sleep. I'll post the continuation later, hehe.

Stay tuned.